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Thank you kindly as working on this

Yep, i have both! what do i do? how do i get help? my family is throwing me out! i 'm scared! i am 74. i have a graduate degree ,so i'm not an idiot but all these symptoms have amplified with age and it has all led to rejection and abandonment. Can not stand living with these traits nor how my family acts enraged and rejecting. They say they wish me dead. Where can i go for help and get support for living or dying? I am exhausted living with these cognitive and behavioral disorders and when you are my age your family is just as fed up. I don't blame them. I am as frustrated as they are. So, is going to sleep permantlly the best solution all around? Seems like the American government doesn't even give a damn about us elderly suffering with these conditions. I'm not talking about dementia! What do aging women do who have add/autism to find adequate and respectful help

Most people with autism have a very stressful and disappointing life. Just bad luck you're born with this mental disorder. 😮

I think I’m just an introvert and don’t like most people or basically don’t need but a few…

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

Really appreciate this, thanks. My whole family is autistic, but we suspect my wife and daughter may also be ADHD (me and my son definitely aren't). I'll talk about this with them, but I think this is supporting the hypothesis.

I wonder if growing up in an abusive environment can cause autism.

Hi Kim! You make really good videos and you talk about everything that I experience, it's so weird but also validating!

And there is PMDD to consider, too... Heard about it, read about it and now I am totally confused how to split/seperate all those disgnoses

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Am getting tested for both .

Was dating a guy and our conversation always seemed lacking, there was a huge wall and I was always anxious 😟I was trying to get to know him, so i texted alot and he said it was too much pressure I put on him..and broke it off?? Lol

I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. Now I'm in my mid 30s and I if AuDHD very interesting. I have watched hours on hours of videos on this topic in the past weeks. And I think I might have autistic traits but way below any diagnostic level. But it helps we explain a few of my quirks.

Gosh. 40 years of living this way I went back into therapy because I was considering being a therapist and didn’t want to be a hypocrite or damaging therapist. It has opened up so much that I wish I didn’t have to face, and at the end of the day isn’t anyone’s fault, it’s just they didn’t know better.

After a few months of seeing a counselor, I have finally found the words to describe or explain what my depression is about. He kept on emphasizing the idea that I must think pretty poorly of myself, and am therefore depressed. And I am thinking, "No!" I checked off the majority of the 40 positive words to describe myself (in an exercise that he gave me). He was surprised that I didn't struggle to describe myself in a positive way. But whether OTHER people see me as intelligent and capable of knowing what type of job is best for me (and which environmental conditions are best for me with my sensitivities), or whether they see me as a strong and valuable person, is a different story. I can believe in myself all I want, but if people view as being sensitive and vulnerable, they are often going to use me as an emotional punching bag, to release all of the anger that they have accumulated over time at work or from being around other people. Me being treated in this way (way more frequently than the average person), doesn't make me want to make new friends. I also don't have the energy to handle drama, if people try to poke fun at me to see if I will react (and these are often people who seem nice at the beginning, and then catch me off guard as they start testing the waters and try being rude to me. It's such a turn off to me, because they KNOW that they are being rude, but they do it anyway (they know how to be kind and respectful to everyone else around them (consistently, for months on end), but then they suddenly forget how when they start seeing how far they can go with the backhanded comments, criticisms, and even try to humiliate me in front of our shared group of friends. When I put in a full effort to respect them, and they don't do the same in return, it sends me the message that they don't value me. And when other people hop on board and go along with the person's antics, it sends me the message that a LOT of people don't value me. How is that supposed to make me feel excited about going out and socializing, when so many people are living in misery nowadays, and seem to be on the search to use somebody as their emotional punching bag. If I have to get angry at people everytime they do that, then I am just using up valuable energy that I can't afford to waste on powerful negative emotions. And if people are willing to test the waters and see if they can get away with hurting someone (I don't know, I guess they must just want to see somebody hurt, angry, or both), I don't see much reason to trust someone like that. So many people seem to think that insults are funny (as you often see comedians resort to it for some sort of humor), then why would I think that they aren't going to do the same to me or my friends or my family. It's definitely enough to make me depressed, despite seeing myself as having a lot of great qualities. And luckily, my bestie is very much like me, and I am so incredibly grateful to have found her.

Ant stop focusing on the bandaid on your finger. 👀I need to remove the flap. ✂️

It seems everyone has various forms of “autism” these days. Why the label? Some people are just unique

If you have autism, something would have indicated the need for testing long ago. If you have Asperger's you may have slid by undetected

I feel autism is like part of human evolution.

EDS over here. Spot On Doc!

Definitely not my first video on the subject or that has me thinking "yeah, that sounds like me", but absolutely helpful the way you broke everything down.

As a child I identified strongly with orphan characters in novels, even though I physically had two parents and a brother.

This is an awesome video. Recognized a lotnof myself in this, and also picked up on some stuff I hadn't even thought about! Thank you!

I hope more clinicians recognise how these present in adult women because i don't think I'll ever be properly assessed 😂

Yep, this captures the experience pretty succinctly. Diagnosed ASD1 and ADHD-C, and this explains the overlap in a very relatable way! To all those out there figuring themselves out, you're valid and doing great and I hope you find the answers you seek! 💙

Thank you. This is very helpful.

I identified as HSP for a long time, but it's only now after 40 that I've become more aware of my autistic traits. I think the HSP tests all stress empathy and sensitivity, and I've been irritated by that as I don't see empathy as my core value; rather it's truth. So I'm sensitive, I can defo be very empathetic, but I'm more interested in the truth of things, how things work, getting to the bottom of stuff. I always have a special interest because of this. So I see myself as somewhere in between the two "diagnoses".😅😅😅

In Australia HSP stands for "Halal Snack Pack" which is a tray of fries topped with kebab meat, sometimes cheese, and a variety of sauces. Very tasty. Great video, very informative. But it also made me very hungry! 😂

I was diagnosed with autism 2 years ago at age 56 but have always suspected I have ADHD as well

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If boredom is a torture, could it be ADHD?

"I have this whole thing w/ buffets..." 😂 I know what u mean, so did my father. I have my OWN thing w/ buffets that is even - to mist ppl I'm sure - even weirder than not trusti g food that sits out & / or is touched by pp other than restaurant workers- I refuse to eat ANYTHING w/ my hands after using the shared serving utensils til I have washed my hands... each time. Lol My SO LOVES Asian buffets & we are both foodies w/ big appetites who love getting a lot of food for the $$ - so, this one Chinese Buffet we go to like 85% of the time we eat out (bc I like to see him happy!) And the ladies room is WAAAAAYYY AT THE EXTREME back of the restaurant, like 150 yrds or something, no jking! EVERY time I getba new plate, if there is Any finger food (nigiri, Chinese donuts, chicken stick, mussels, scow crab...) i HAVE TO walk all the way across 2 separate huge dining rooms, all the buffets tables & down a Looppng hallway and back. He just gives me THAT look ea time.😂

I have been going down the rabbit hole, trying to see what this whole "autism" thing is all about. Today, during this video, i burst out in tears when i realized that i am, in fact, autistic. It's no longer a question in my mind. What put me over the edge was the part about self soothing. Keep up the great work, Dr. Sage

Everybody has autism and ADHD these days. Is anybody not getting a diagnosis? I saw a psychiatrist and walked out with both conditions. I wasn't after a diagnosis.

My ex ! Omg they sound so similar to narcs . I feel they are very comorbid .😮 my ex would do Alot of this . And never could look within . It’s so toxic & they never look within and say and do a lot being manipulative. My ex would keep saying I’m cheating and I am not . I would feel insane . 😢❤ I am glad I left him . I let him just be I hope he finds a women who can put up with the controlling and demanding behavior . You describe the BPD sooooo well ! ❤

I am an introvert. I was a very quietly spoken child and teenager. I rarely talked to anyone because I lacked social skills and the ability to express myself openly. I was a passive naive young person. I preferred to be alone and do what I wanted in my spare time. I am not a misanthropic person because I have dealt with my inner demons and come to terms with who I am. The fact that I grew up in a toxic family who physically, emotionally, and verbally abused me made me hate everyone until I became an adult. I never knew what an introvert was until I read Dr Carl Jung's books about different personalities and archetypes. I also read Emotional Intelligence and other self-help books which improve myself. I dislike being classified into various labels, negative stereotyping and being pigeonholed into a category by certain therapists.

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Who thinks the DSM is outdated and is in need of some serious revisions with respect to Autism and ADHD especially in females? Also NPD and cluster B personality disorders across the board needs to be reassessed imho.

Dr. Sage, I have recently discovered your videos starting with the ones about attachment styles then onto the ones addressing BPD and its effects on parenting. I am a mom raising a 15-year-old daughter and I am struggling a lot trying to figure out how to Navigate it not only because of being a (single)mother of a teenage daughter; but also being a mother diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and disorganized attachment. My goal originally was to be the exact opposite of my parents and basically just be better in all aspects especially when it came to preparing her for the world around her and what to expect. However as I am finding out… you live what you know and you can only exhibit what you’ve been taught until you are able to see the behavior for what it is, learn more and do better. I watched your “borderline mothers and daughters” video thinking that you would talk about strategies to achieve success in that dynamic… and that’s not at all what it was. As Extremely difficult as it was to watch, I did anyway with the intent of learning what harm I might be causing my daughter that I could possibly be unaware of. Some of the traits you talked about exhibited by the mother with borderline are absolutely not present in my situation. I know this because I actively work to make sure that those traits are not present in the relationship with her and that healthy boundaries ALWAYS maintained. It seems like most of your videos focused on parenting (especially having to do with a borderline parent)focus more on villainizing that parent and how to heal from the trauma having inevitably developed after having this seemingly “evil” almost psychopathic, type of parent with BPD that apparently lacks all traces of empathy, which you describe in a lot of your videos. As I am trying to learn how to be the best mother I can be in spite of this disorder, which by the way I did not ask for… I would love to see a video from you that focused on strategies for the borderline parent specifically the “mom”. Moms that in fact are aware of their issues and helpful parenting strategies to overcome them. Understanding that we were once a child too with less than nurturing parents and now dealing with our own abandonment issues. The last thing I wanna do is to pass this dysfunction onto my child, further perpetuating the generational cycle; even though more often than not that is exactly what ends up happening without professional help. I don’t want to harm my daughter psyche only for her to do the same thing to her kids and I’m trying to do everything in my power to ensure that does not happen.

I will be 62 day after tomorrow and this just blew my mind...I have been thinking this for awhile and the algorithms jsut brought it to finality.

I rarely get sick and have little allergies but I have a lot of the autism traits and ADHD. I'm very empathetic, I stem, I need structure and routine but have yet to figure it out, I am very direct, I can't read between the lines and despise people who speak in riddles or circles. I need deep connections, have no friends, a history of broken friendships, relationships and familyships. I've walked alone in life since 27. I need direct communication. Wjen working, I need a specific list of direction before I ca begin.

Wow well I guess I have both now that I'm learning about both of them more I noticed lots of things and don't beat myself up about so much anymore but I still hate when I get mad cause my child doesn't listen at times cause it's really hard for me and I don't think others understand how hard it is every day for a person when suffering with these things cause as I'm learning about it I'm almost learning how I handle stress when it comes to my child not respecting what I ask of her because it's like 10 times of me saying it to her calm it's much more stressful when suffering with adhd and autism and a single mother with the whole raising her is up too me and I'm the only one trying to make her understand right from wrong sometimes I just feel like we are not a team and we are just working against each other it's hard when you need your 5 minutes too regulate but your child just won't let you get it instead of destressing you get more stressed I just wish I had the help I need so it won't be so hard on me it might be easy for normal people but not for me all I can't do is keep trying the best way I can I'm just figuring things out as I go I wasn't shown any of these things no one is perfect we all fall short we just need too be easier on ourselves and not worry about what outside world has too say about how your doing things we are doing the best we can as we go yes I could do things differently at times but how are we gonna leave if we don't mess up from time to time

O hate abbreviations what is PCOS?

Highly functioning with ADHD is a bit different

What is a bottoms up way ?

I thank you so much for your videos. Without you I may have never been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD as well as CPTSD. Haven't been able to get much help yet but I finally know what's going on for me and why I am the way I am. Thank you. ❤

I can't get bored. My mind entertains me. If you're boring me, sorry 😞 😅😂.

So grateful to have found your channel

Does anyone have a problem knowing how to say " good bye" to people, People that came to visit or if you go there, Parting ways is awkward because there is no graceful way to say goodbye.. That I know of.

My son has Asperger’s, my daughter has ADD. I tend to jump in socially, then fizzle out, freak out, or freeze. 🤔